Is. But she didn't know. They took him from her while she was still weak and she never saw him again or knew anything about him, until after the Blight.

[ That's all he knows. They kept in contact, but he didn't read Asunder. ]

Anyway, I think people learn to believe in things they can't fight, sometimes, so they don't go mad. And then if someone else does fight it, when they didn't, it's probably sort of threatening.